Socializing as a kid, adult…

Our son starts kindergarten in just a week… I’m super excited for him, but a complete emotional mess. Any time I start to think about it, I get all teary-eyed. I’m not ready for him to be gone everyday. Everyday for the next 12-13 years. Then gone even more after that. Why do we make kids grow up so fast? I wish mine could stay this age for a long time–not forever, because that’s not fair to them. But not this quick either, because that’s not fair to me! I worry about how my son is going to handle kindergarten. He did really well in preschool, but you can’t compare 2.5 hours of preschool to the 7 hours of kindergarten. I worry about how he’ll behave for the teachers… I worry about, what if he doesn’t make any friends? Everyone who knows him, knows how energetic he is, knows that he can’t help but move. Other kids aren’t as understanding. Especially when they’re only 5 or 6. He loves being around other kids so much, I just hope the kids in his class can look past all the jumping he does.

I think the socialization aspect is one of the things I’m dreading the most as my kids enter school. When the kids socialize, that means the parents are socializing. For one, I haven’t had to really make friends in years… not since my son was born, actually. Once we have kids, we’re allowed to hole ourselves up & communicate only occasionally with the outside world. Once the kids enter the school years, us parents are expected to enter back into adult civilization. It’s all quite cruel, really. I don’t feel like we’re given enough time, especially when for those last few years our main interactions are primarily with kids. Making friends as an adult is so complicated. Why does it have to be? Who knows, all I know is that it is. It doesn’t help that my husband is content to be a hermit. Ok, maybe not a hermit–but, pretty close to it. But, he hates small talk and is very awkward around new people. I do my best–I just be me, for the most part. I don’t believe in putting on an act just to impress people. What’s the point? Because if they do end up becoming a friend, wouldn’t you want them to like you for you? I remember when our son would be in sports, etc. and my husband & I would always just sit by ourselves with our daughter. The biggest problem was always that the other parents already knew each other from a different class their kids were in, so they would just talk to each other. Most people don’t care to add more to their groups, it seems. So, we would just continue to be awkward! And there’s just so much drama in the mom-circles. I know, I’ve tried to enter multiple times over the last 6 years, ultimately just giving up because friendships shouldn’t have to be so hard. Right? I’m just terrible with all the social cues. I imagine other parents feel the same, or at least I hope I’m not the only one. Ugh–I think though I might be just as strange as my husband. Maybe that’s why we go so well together!

So, it’s going to be interesting as our son enters school, making friends and then expecting mom & dad to make friends with his friends’ parents so that it’s easier to play. We’ll do our best, that’s all we can do. 😛

–Lissa

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